What Happens When You Try To Give Too Much Out Of Stores That Just Aren’t There?

How often do you find yourself reaching a breaking point? How often do you try to give more than you have and need to stop and refuel? And when you do try to stop and take a breather, how often are you filled with guilt? Who am I to sit down and take a break? Do I really deserve this when there are people who need me? But at the same time, you may start feeling dread when someone comes to your door because you know you have nothing left to give. We become resentful. We become short-tempered. We become tired. We start to burn out.

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Think You Might Need Counseling?

You may wonder “How do I know if I need counseling? Is this serious enough?” “How do I know if I have a ‘mental health issue’?” “What if it seems more like a spiritual issue, but I’m feeling anxious or depressed as a result?” We hope this brief set of common questions and answers will help you determine if counseling can benefit you.

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Third Culture Kids’ Challenges

Third Culture Kids experience a variety of challenges, some more than others! Consider a young teenage boy impacted by several cultures. Born in his country of origin, he was placed in an orphanage with significant levels of neglect. After a few years, he was adopted by a family that turned out to be abusive. At the hands of his new parents he suffered through physical and emotional abuse and neglect. His Father God saw fit for a global worker family to adopt him, where he finally saw the Father’s love for His children enacted in real life. He was, and is, deeply loved by his second human family. However, as a child of global workers, he now lived in yet another country;

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This Is Not What I Signed Up For!

“This is not what I signed up for!” “I thought my team would be a true community, but why do I feel so alone?” “I’ve invested three years here and have yet to see any fruit.” “My team leader expects so much; I can never measure up.” “I thought we had a good marriage, but since moving here we’ve been fighting nonstop.” “I came halfway around the world to serve God; why does He seem so far away?”

GRC care providers hear statements like these on many occasions. Often, these feelings of doubt are coupled with loneliness and isolation.

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Help Me Help Others

How many times have you tried to help someone work through personal problems and found them getting “stuck” at some point along the way? One area where this often happens is in the process of forgiveness and healing from past hurts. Many of us, despite our best intentions, have had times when true forgiveness just seemed out of reach. Sometimes forgiveness feels too much like letting the other person off the hook. Or we try to forgive and move on, but something happens and the old hurt and anger flare up as strongly as ever.


In his book Help Me Help Others: Practical Ways to Build Healthy Relationships, Dr. Larry Wagner offers tools to help people identify and overcome relational challenges.

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Fences Make Great Neighbors. Maybe Even Teammates.

“My new teammate is really struggling. She needs someone to talk to. I’m trying to love her well, to be there for her … but this is getting so draining!”

“I’m a husband, a dad, a church planter and team leader. I enjoy all these roles, but it feels like someone constantly needs something from me, and there just aren’t enough hours in the day. People tell me to prioritize and let some things go, but it’s all important. How can I say no to any of it?”

The whole idea of setting boundaries and saying no can feel selfish. Sometimes it can feel downright impossible…

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Preventing Burnout

What does it take to reach the finish line—to fulfill your calling with joy? Track with me a minute here. We can learn something from marathon runners about going the distance while serving cross-culturally.

…English researchers found that men and women were able to run for 1 hour and 43 minutes at a moderate intensity when supplied with water compared to only 1 hour and 17 minutes when denied water.

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Was This a Mistake?

“Should I be here? Was this a mistake?” Since middle school, Kelly dreamed of serving overseas. After a year of service on a university outreach team, she began wrestling more and more with doubts. The culture where she serves values directness, and a lot of “direct” comments about her abilities have stirred up her insecurities. Everyone comments on how my teammates picked up the language more quickly. They have more skills to bring to the table. Am I even doing enough? Am I enough?

Anxiety starts to play a more prominent role in Kelly’s life. It gets harder to sleep at night. Others’ laughter at a language blunder triggers waves of panic. She starts to get sick to her stomach any time she is asked to lead a small group or initiate a conversation with a national.

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What If You Allowed Yourself to Just Breathe?

"Why don't you slow down and take a breather?" Susan asked as Dave walked in the door, his sweat-soaked shirt sticking to his body.

"I can't really afford to sit down right now.” As Dave shut the door behind him, the hot desert air seemed to recede as the atmosphere of the house returned to a comfortable temperature. “I just came from Abdullah's house to help patch his roof and now I have to prepare for the men's Bible study tonight and finish my sermon for tomorrow.”

"I just feel like you’re driving yourself into the ground," said Susan. "You look exhausted!"

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